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The Blessing of a B Minus
If you have children between 11 and 20 (or if you plan on your kids reaching those ages, for that matter), go get this book right now. Mogel's take on parenting teens is compassionate, wise, and inspired. Much like her earlier book The Blessing of a Skinned Knee, which was geared toward parents of younger children, Mogel draws from her understanding of Jewish teachings to reframe some of the challenges teens face (and the associated frustrations of parenting them) into blessings.
In The Blessing of a B Minus, Mogel reminds us of, among others:
~The blessing of strange fruit: Accepting the unique glory of your teen
~The blessing of a B minus: The real lessons of homework, chores, and jobs
~The blessing of problems to solve: Learning from bad judgment and stress
~The blessing of breaking the rules: Real life as ethics lab
Am I Jewish? No. And you don't have to be either to thoroughly enjoy this book. The ideas that Mogel discusses are universal and accessible for all. For example, she uses the story of the Israelites' wandering in the desert with Moses. She notes that the presence of God was a "'pillar of cloud by day...and a pillar of fire by night.' This beautiful image is a model for parents whose children are wandering in the wilderness of adolescence. Like God, you stand by, providing shade and light when needed, but mostly you stand back. You wait to see if your child can solve problems on his own before stepping in; you let him experience the natural consequences of his poor decisions; and you give him the freedom to make mistakes, even big ones."
As the parent of three children (12, 14, 17) it's a great relief to read such a wonderful book that eases some of the anxieties we parents face during this stage of parenting. As a doctoral student studying parenting and child development, I'm just a little jealous I didn't write this!
[edited to say: I should add that I don't completely mesh with one of the chapters, The Blessing of the Hangover, and some of you might not either. There are still great insights in that one; I just try to keep my teens further away from those mistakes than perhaps some parents do. Having said that, I still think teaching and then stepping away and allowing teens to make decisions (and mistakes) is what these years are all about.]
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~ My friend Bridget agreed to be interviewed and has some great things to say about being a new student-mom returning to grad school. Catch it here.
~ Also, a request. I have been working hard at launching a new idea, one that's actually been simmering for over a year now. I'm not quite ready to go public but if you'd be willing to act as a virtual focus group and give feedback, I would be so grateful. Just say so in the comments or send me an email (basic.annie@gmail.com) and I'll let you know what you can do. Then I'll find a way to show you my undying gratitude.
Friday, October 22, 2010
Reader Comments (9)
Sounds like an awesome book. I need all the help I can get.
Also? If my services could be of any use to you ever, in any way, shape or form? Count me in, sista friend.
Dude. I want to be in your focus group. Is the ability to focus a requirement? Because...ummm...that might be a problem at the moment.
I'd love to listen to your ideas. :)
i've been looking for a good read. i just returned TWO books to the library because after getting them home i thought, "there is no way i want to spend my valuable time reading this."
also, who wouldn't want to participate in your project? sounds fun already.
So, I've been lurking for a while, but the opportunity to hear one of your ideas before the general public has drawn me out of hiding. I'd love to help if you think I can be of service. And I'm so looking forward to finding and reading this book.
I would be happy to help any way I can.
I can't wait to read this book -- I've loved watching you with your kids for a while now -- they certainly are lucky to have such great parents.
I'd also love to hear what you are thinking about these days!
I can already tell that that is my kind of book. Thanks for the recommendation.
And I LOVE to be focused on. Please add me to your focus group! =)
Count me in for the focus group!