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Hi, I'm Annie.

Mother of 3,
spouse to G,
writer of things,
former batgirl,
sister,
daughter,
lucky friend,
and American
living in Australia.

Basic Joy = my attempt to document all of this life stuff, stubbornly looking for the joy in dailiness. 

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Mama, Ph.D.: Women Write About Motherhood and Academic LifeMountains Beyond Mountains: The Quest of Dr. Paul Farmer, a Man Who Would Cure the WorldThe Sweetness at the Bottom of the PieThe Island: A NovelThe PassageSecret Spaces of Childhood

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Entries in metablogging (9)

Monday
Nov102008

Go ahead, take it

As kids we used to think it was so funny to hear my grandma answer the phone.  She would be chatting away in a normal voice, which for her (and her 8 sisters) was rapid fire and kind of loud.  The phone would ring, she would cross the kitchen, pick up the receiver and say  "hellO-o?", her voice suddenly sweet and soft and singsong, managing to draw it out into three syllables.  The stark contrast cracked us up every time...somehow the trek across the kitchen transformed her from the Grandma we knew to a caricature of over-the-top sunniness. Even better if the phone rang when she was upset or scolding us. ("You kids stop running through here!  We have enough people in the kitchen already.  Everyone out! " {phone ring, delicate clearing of throat}  "HellO-o?")


I've worried lately that sometimes this blog feels like that cheery, sing-song hello--definitely one side of my life/personality/experience but not always exactly the full picture.   When I decided to call this spot on the internet "basic joy" it wasn't because I think my life is any more joyful than anyone else's.  It was to remind myself to find the basic everyday joy, a nudge challenging my sometimes Eeyore moods. Life is complicated and mine is messy and imperfect.  Challenges, life's pace, loneliness, expectations, hormones, did I say expectations?, and too little sleep conspire to hide the joy.  

I know from talking to friends, the young women I work with, and a few of you that I'm not alone in this.  I've got a classic case of the Novembers, I think.  I cry at victory speeches, concession speeches,  birthdays, commercials, stories on the radio, watching my kids rise to the occasion and despairing at their struggles--good cries and sad cries, happiness and loneliness.  All of this coexisting with the necessity of my cheery hellO-o voice when it's required.

Then I remember what I always learn in these dreary spans: I can choose joy even in the middle of all that. So I lean heavily on these thoughts:
I salute you. I am your friend and my love for you goes deep. There is nothing I can give you which you have not got. But there is much, very much, that while I cannot give it, you can take. No heaven can come to us unless our hearts find rest in today. Take heaven! No peace lies in the future which is not hidden in this present little instance. Take peace! The gloom of the world is but a shadow. Behind it, yet within our reach, is joy. Take joy! Life is so full of meaning and purpose, so full of beauty . . . that you will find earth but cloaks your heaven. Courage then to claim it, that is all . . . And so I greet you, with profound esteem and with the prayer that for you, now and forever, the day breaks and the shadows flee away. ~Fra Giovanni, "Letter to a friend"
Love that.  Take heaven, take peace, take joy. Go ahead, after you...

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Inspired by:
~this post at Segullah about blogging
~a similar discussion about finding joy on my friend Jenny's private blog (so no link)
~this blog about mothers and creativity and blogging
~conversations with friends, family

Wednesday
Oct292008

Back Burner

Hmm. Lots of things have been put on the back burner lately.  Clean floors, for one. Raked leaves, another.  Getting and carving pumpkins (yikes--still to be accomplished), as my kids remind me, is officially later than ever before. Sadly, writing for my own pleasure (including this site here) has been yet another.  I'm fine.  The family's fine.  Louie's fine, except he's taken to barking at the falling leaves. I'll be back soon, when I have something to say and time to say it.  (Somehow the two haven't matched up very well lately.)

Friday
Aug222008

I'm your geek


I'm his geek. Not sure how I feel about the larger format for pictures of me, however

Whenever I figure out something tech-related at our house, G says "you're my geek!" (I like to think it's said lovingly + proudly. Wait, do you think Brad says that to Angelina? Am I undermining myself here? Should I be more technologically helpless? Please advise.) Really, the secret is...I'll read the directions when he won't. Key to marital satisfaction, that. Someone has to read the directions.

Today I'm on loan as your geek. I'm sadly lacking in HTML ability (or any understanding thereof) but I'm pretty dogged when I really want to figure something out. And I WANTED BIGGER PHOTOS, darnit. Several of you asked for the secret codes to unluck all this big photo-ness so I thought I'd share here.

I know. This will only be interesting to a couple of people. If you don't have a blog, you won't want to read any further. Regular programming will resume next post.

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This is for Blogger templates with two columns: one wide for posts (and those gorgeous big photos!) and the other a smaller sidebar. Mine is a Minima template, if that means something to you.

First you will reformat the blog to make it wider.

Click the "layout" tab at the top of your editing page for your blog

Now click "edit HTML" (you might want to copy the whole existing template and save to your hard drive just in case. I didn't do this but I feel like I need to give you the warning and the option.)

Scroll down until you see the section of the template. You'll see (red is added):

#outer-wrapper {
width: 660px;

margin:0 auto;
padding:10px;
text-align:$startSide;
font: $bodyfont;
}
This will change the width of your whole layout, the whole page. You can change the width up to about 950 (or so I read). Change the number "660" to the new width (I did 950).

Now you want to widen the two different columns. You want the two numbers to add up to less than 950 so there is a little space between them. (Otherwise they run right into each other). To do this, you scroll down a little bit in the HTML template to the next block of code. First the main column ("main wrapper"):

#main-wrapper {
width: 410px;
float: $startSide;
word-wrap: break-word; /* fix for long text breaking sidebar float in IE */
overflow: hidden; /* fix for long non-text content breaking IE sidebar float */
}
Simply replace the "410" in red with the new number. I changed mine to 650.

Next, do the same for the sidebar width ("sidebar wrapper"). This code is located right there after the main wrapper:

#sidebar-wrapper {
width: 220px;
float: $endSide;
word-wrap: break-word; /* fix for long text breaking sidebar float in IE */
overflow: hidden; /* fix for long non-text content breaking IE sidebar float */
}
Again, just replace the old "220" with the new width. (Mine was 250. 650 of the main column + 250 in the sidebar = 900, leaving 50 whatever-you-call-its as margin in between).

You can tinker with this until you get a layout that you like. Hit "save template" (and say a little prayer).

Now you're ready for the photo part of the operation.

(Is there anyone still with me? Hello? Yoohoo? No? Okay...catch you another day. Yes? REALLY? You must really want those big photos!)

Bad news: hitting the "add image" button will never, ever result in wide photos. Or not until Blogger changes something. Who knew?

Instead, you need to post your photos not from your own hard drive but from a photo hosting site like Flickr or Photobucket. Plus that way you won't lose EVERY photo in a hard drive crash. Or drop your computer from a counter and lose them that way. Just saying.

Create your post as usual. In HTML mode (not "Compose"), put this code where you're ready to post a photo:

img src="http address of your photo" width="100px" height="100px" /
(but begin it with a < and end with a >. I couldn't add those to the code here or it would try to post a photo there!)

You will replace the blue code with the http address of your photo on the hosting site (each of the sites have their own way of providing this but it's pretty obvious.)

The red code determines the dimensions of the photo. 100x100 is a small square. The easy way is to just change EITHER the width or the height and just delete the other. It will size itself to the right proportions. Since I made my main column 650 px, I made the width (or the height, if it was a vertically oriented picture) 650 px.

Again, you can monkey with this a bit until you get it the way you like.

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Voila! Big beautiful photos and a wider blog. (Oooo..I wish I knew the html code to my hips...I would definitely bring the pixels numbers down a bit, especially post vacation. Anyone got those codes?)

If you use this info for your site, leave your blog address in the comments for us all to admire!

Good luck!

Thanks to this site for info on reformatting and this site on photo enlarging. And this one.

And this is the part where I say I am not a professional and am not responsible for the results on your own blog. OK? I may or may not be able to help with questions either. Sorry. I was an English major! Ask me to diagram sentences or deconstruct a poem and I'm all over it.

Friday
Jun272008

The wondrous land of blog

Andrea, me, Liz, Brittany
{photo via Andrea, by the way}

Maddy: What are you getting ready for?

Me: I'm going out to eat with some friends tonight.

Maddy: Who? (A little too skeptically. Hey, M, I have friends!)

Me: Ummm. Andrea. And Liz. And Brittany.

Maddy: Have I ever met them?

Me: Well, no. Technically I haven't either. We met by reading each others' blogs. We found out Andrea is visiting here and the rest of us live around New England.

Maddy: (after a beat) I thought we weren't supposed to arrange to see people we meet online. And not give out our information. Are you sure this is safe? (Maddy girl's got my back.)

Me: That's true, you definitely shouldn't. But these are really more like penpals. We know each other pretty well. {or, I'm thinking to myself, at least kind of well. Or barely.}

Maddy: (looks doubtful) Okay. When will you be home?

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We had a great evening together, the four of us. Amazing how you can sit down and already know so much about the lives of people you've never met. And how quickly you start talking, laughing, sharing, and getting real. I loved every minute of it. Liz even made laminated cards commemorating the First Annual New England Blog Party (get your reservations in early for next year!)

So here's another counterbalance to last week's blog crisis. This land of blog can be also be affirming, connecting, uplifting, and sometimes a lifeline. I've reconnected with longlost friends. Distant (on the family tree) family members have become good friends (hi Jenny). And I've made new blog friends (you know who you are...if you're reading this, I mean you) and penpal friends (hi Jessica and Lindsay in England--we got your envelope today!).

Do you know the Emily Dickinson poem that goes "this is my letter to the world/that never answered back"? Well, this is mine.

I think Emily would totally be a blogger, by the way.

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